Whatever experience you have had with money will shape what you expect of money. This goes as far as your childhood. You’ve probably heard the saying “Monkey see, monkey do.” Well, humans aren’t far behind. As kids, we learn just about everything from modeling. Although most of us would hate to admit it, there’s more than a grain of truth in the old saying “The apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree.” The point is that generally speaking, we tend to be identical to one or a combination of our parents in the arena of money.
If you grew up in an environment with limited resources, you are conditioned to live with insufficiency, a scarcity mentality and the nudge to spend all you have because the future is uncertain. This blue print can go on unnoticed for years until you stop and analyse yourself. In this case, even when you have the money you are tempted to spend it on things that are unnecessary because your blue print tells you that it’s never enough and will never be enough so spend it as soon as you get it.
Many people who come from poor families become angry and rebellious about it. Often they either go out and get rich or at least have the motivation to do so. But there’s one little hiccup, which is actually a big burp. Whether such people get rich or work their buns off trying to become successful, they are not usually happy. Why? Because the root of their wealth or motivation for money is anger and resentment. Consequently, money and anger become linked in their minds, and the more money such individuals have or strive for, the angrier they get.
Meanwhile, the real issue is, and always was, the anger between them and their parents. And until that anger is resolved, they will never be truly happy or peaceful regardless of how much money they have or don’t have. The reason or motivation you have for making money or creating success is vital. If your motivation for acquiring money or success comes from a non-supportive root such as fear, anger, or the need to “prove” yourself, your money will never bring you happiness.
Of course, given a choice, most of us would rather worry about having money and losing it than not having money at all, but neither are overly enlightened ways to live. As with those of us driven by fear, many people are motivated to achieve financial success to prove they are “good enough.” You need to realize that no amount of money can ever make you good enough. Money can’t make you some-thing you already are. Again, as with fear, the “always having to prove yourself” issue becomes your habitual way of living. You don’t even recognize it’s running you. No amount of money, or anything else for that matter, will ever be enough for people who feel they are not good enough themselves.
Remember, your inner world reflects your outer world. If you believe you are not enough, you will validate that belief and create the reality that you don’t have enough. On the other hand, if you believe you are plenty, you will validate that belief and create plenty of abundance.