One of the key aspects influencing people effectively is the ability to show genuine interest. What do I mean by genuine interest? I mean that not only you act as that you care, but you really do care and listen to what people are saying. It is easier said than done. Especially when you just want to get the job done and you may not care about the person at all.
The good news is that the ability to be genuinely interested in people is something that can be learned. You can learn to be interested in others. You can learn to care about others around you. You can learn to trust people around you and by doing this other people will be interested in you, will care about what you have to say and will trust you.
It doesn’t take much to make someone feel you genuinely care about them. You just need to be a little sensitive and make a conscious effort to go beyond the superficial and let your actions speak louder than words.
When you talk to a person always make sure you focus only on that particular individual and don’t get distracted by anything else. You need to not only pay attention but let the other person know that you are paying attention. This means that your whole body language must be in sync with what you are saying. Stop doing whatever you are doing, face the person, make eye contact and listen.
Be interested in what’s going on with them. Learn about their work, hobbies and passions. Pay attention to what they are enthusiastic about, talk to them about it and see how you could be of help. It is not only the easiest way to connect with them but also the best way to make them feel you value and truly care about them.
Feel what others are feeling and be mindful of their thoughts. Putting yourself in their shoes will give you a perspective of what they are going through and this little gesture will go a long way to reassure them that you understand them.
No one is perfect. Everyone has flaws, falters or errs sometime or the other. So avoid judging and criticizing them. Practice patience and tolerance; accept them the way they are. On your part, see how you can help them improve and add value to their life. Look beyond their mistakes, appreciate their positives, raise their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. This will go a long way in strengthening the bond and win over their confidence.
Everyone has their hands full when it comes to work. But once in a while take time out and lend a helping hand. Assist family and friends with their stuff. Help them with a difficult task, run an errand or take care of some of the things they need to do. Showing your eagerness to share their burden of responsibility will demonstrate your genuine interest in them.
Pay attention to those who matter to you. Let them know they are worth your time. Be mindful of their needs and feelings. Make sincere efforts to get close to them, understand them, and make them feel special. Simple, thoughtful ways can turn their life around and go a long way to let them know they are important and mean the world to you.