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Traits Of Irresistible People (TIP) # 11: Forgive & Move on

To error is human and to forgive is divine. As long as you live and work with human beings, you are bound to get hurt one way or another. For the longest time I believed that people had the ability to hurt me but soon learnt that no one has the power to hurt me unless I let them do so and it is the same for you. But let us focus on the aspect of forgiveness and how it will make you an irresistible person.
Learning how to forgive is complex, and it can’t happen overnight. However, it is possible, and you’ll be so much better off when you succeed. Forgiveness is deeply personal, so no two individuals will experience it in exactly the same way. Forgiveness means different things to different people. 
Generally, however, it involves a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge.
The act that hurt or offended you might always be with you, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help free you from the control of the person who harmed you. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”  When you are having a hard time letting go of the pain, sadness or suffering remember that the person may not be worthy of forgiveness, but you are worthy of being free from this negativity!  When you let go of the anger, the power is back with you and this person has no control over you anymore.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you or making up with the person who caused the harm. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life. Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for improved health and peace of mind.
Do whatever you need to do to feel like your best, most authentic self. Meditate, be creative, spend time with those who aren’t hurting you, and tap into your heart energy. This is the positive, resilient part of you that will give you the resources you need to recover from pain.
No matter how awful something is, there are always useful lessons to be learned. In fact, the Universe often sends us challenges precisely so we can grow. Ask yourself what you can learn from this particular rupture in your relationship with another person. What will you do differently in other relationships? For example, are there firmer boundaries you need to hold?
Do your best to align yourself with a loving, giving vibration. Try writing down 3-5 things that make you feel love at the start of your day, and hold those in your heart. Every time you feel yourself returning to negativity, recite those 3-5 things in your mind. As you give love, so too will you receive it.
Remember, forgiving does not mean what happened was okay and it doesn’t mean that you have to trust the person who wronged you or even associate with them.  Finally, if for nothing else, moving on, living a successful life and finding happiness is the best revenge you can ever have on someone who has wronged you. Let go, move on and start enjoying your precious life now!

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